The man who's been designed to love the uniqueness of you will never make you feel like something about you or your circumstances is wrong or needs to be changed.
Even if something about a woman is in dire need of being addressed, the right man will never point it out in a way that leaves her feeling hurt or fatally flawed, and certainly never bring it up in a fight.
The right man will love your quirks, support you in the work you're doing and determine with maturity whether the logistics of your lives fits together or not.
The right man isn't going to ask you to change for him, he's going to determine if the two of you've got more than chemistry, if you've got long term compatibility.
Love by itself is not enough and creating a working relationship at middle age is more challenging than when we were younger and more flexible, especially with kids and careers to consider.
Women don't realize how specific men's standards for 'the one' is and how men will often settle just to avoid being alone. If you're the one, a man will come up with ways to change his course to include you rather than asking you to do the reverse.
Lean back, if you're what he really wants, if you tick all his boxes he'll find a way to live his purpose and run his business or have a career that includes you without you having change who you are or give up things you love. In fact, he'll go out of his way to make sure you keep them.
It's not a romantic 'notion' that women have that creates this, it's an unconscious test that sets a standard for a relationship that can handle life's major stresses.
If it's not a fit, a conscious man will simply break things off. Less conscious men drag things out, disappear, dump you or cheat when someone that's more convenient appears. Be thankful even for these endings as they save you from a man who would simply be settling if he stayed.
If he's really the one, he'll never leave you feeling lousy, he may leave - which feels lousy, but he'll do it because he realizes that he's not the one who will completely adore you and needs to make room for the one who will.
If its tough when you're first in love, how will it handle a financial catastrophe, an illness or a stressful parenting situation???
You deserve to be fully and completely loved for being exactly who you are. Reserve your energy for the man who will spend his life making you feel this way and let go of the ones who make you feel anything other than adored.
Graham R White
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